How do you show yourself love/kindness/compassion? That’s the question I asking readers in our most recent giveaway. And the question I’m attempting to answer for myself here.
If I’ve discovered anything in my 50+ years, it’s that as hard as we may try, we just can’t beat ourselves into transformation. Lasting meaningful change requires big doses of love, kindness and compassion.
If you struggle with food and your weight, you know all too well that the heart of the struggle isn’t with the food as much as it is with yourself.
Hating yourself won’t make you slimmer. It’s impossible to hate yourself slim.
Whopping doses of self-criticism will get you nowhere.
There’s only one path to lasting slim, we must love ourselves there. There’s no other way.
You’ve got to stop hating yourself for everything you aren’t and start loving yourself for everything you are.
For most of my life I’ve been paralyzed by perfectionist thinking. I’ve worked hard to avoid being seen as anything less than “just right.” Unfortunately attempting to appear perfect only serves to confine us and keep us from living happy healthy lives. Growth happens only when we’re willing to risk making mistakes and exposing our vulnerabilities.
We’ve got to stop expecting ourselves to be perfect and learn to accept and enjoy ourselves in the midst of our mistakes.
So, I’m working on being kind to myself by letting myself try new things, experiment and mess-up, say the wrong thing, and look goofy. It’s scary, but worth it.
I’ve also given up sneaking food. I give myself permission to eat what I want in plain sight. Who did I think I was hiding from anyway? When I want a spoonful or two of ice cream before bed, I shout out for everyone to hear, “I’m having a spoonful of ice cream. Does anyone else want one?” Sometimes my husband shows up to join me, sometimes not. Then I dip in, scoop it up and savor the cold, sweet creaminess without an ounce of remorse or guilt.
For Inspiration on Loving Yourself Now check out this amazing “I Am Worthy” video with Dana Falsetti:
For Dana, yoga was the thing that taught her to care about herself and showed her that her body was worth investing in—a lesson that she says saved her life. “I continue to practice because yoga is what taught me to love myself again.”
How do you show yourself love/kindness/compassion? I’d love to know!
Here are a few related videos, I think you might enjoy…
Brene Brown talks about the 20-Ton Shield of Perfectionism:
How to Practice Self Compassion:
- Motivational/Inspirational Quotes
- The Power of Positive Thinking
- To Lose Weight Stop Stressing About It
- 2 Tips on Letting Go of Perfectionism
- Learning to Like Yourself
- Why Humility and Kindness are Critical to Lasting Weight Loss Success
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